How to forgive yourself

How to forgive yourself

When you mess up, you may find your mind reviewing it over and over. It’s not helpful to relive mistakes and disappointments, yet we get trapped there sometimes. The key to our jail cell is self-forgiveness. Mary Hayes Grieco is the author of “Unconditional...
I will forgive with wild abandon

I will forgive with wild abandon

This is my crazy, kind promise to myself this month and forever. By “forgive” I mean to let go of the idea that things should be different than they are. Buddhist teachers talk about the “three poisons.” They are attraction, repulsion, and ignorance. I want this...
Forgiveness is determination to mend

Forgiveness is determination to mend

A funny thing happened when I set out to paint forgiveness. I remembered the day the malamute dog chewed a hole in my rug. It wasn’t just any rug. The summer before the chewing incident, I spent six weeks in Mexico. For some of those weeks, I worked with a...
I will forgive with wild abandon

Forgiveness is a decision

“Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.” (Greater Good)...
three steps for dealing with emotional upset

three steps for dealing with emotional upset

This month I’ve been writing about how to respond to uncomfortable emotions. These last nine months has been filled with them and, as the pandemic continues, we get more invitations to improve our emotional intelligence. I was reminded this week of a Buddhist mind...